-They (researchers) found that goals fell into two basic categories, which they called intrinsic and extrinsic.
-Intrinsic goals centered around fulfillment from deep, enduring relationships. Extrinsic goals centered on earning a lot of money, owning a lot of stuff, gaining power, or achieving reputation and fame…
-If your life goals revolve around lots of money, prestige, and other worldly things, you will be setting yourself up to have exploding wants and low life satisfaction.
-Perhaps you have been a full-on extrinsic goals junkie for many years…
-But if you are mature and experienced in the ways of life-another way of saying you’re getting up there in years, like me-you now know that extrinsic rewards are foolish goals.
-Only a shift to intrinsic goals will give you what you really want…
-Here’s a trick to get started on this: Visualize yourself at a party. Someone asks, “What do you do?” Don’t imagine yourself saying, “I’m a lawyer.” Imagine yourself saying instead, “I’m a wife and a mother to three adult kids.” Don’t worry if you don’t quite believe it yourself at first that this is who you truly are and what you do. You will speak this truth into existence in your life.
-It’s difficult to describe adequately the depth of the rewards that one enjoys when relationships become your official source of meaning and fulfillment. People compare it with finding buried treasure, with the only sadness being that it didn’t happen earlier in life.
Okay, here goes:
Q: What do you do?
“I’m a husband, father, and grandfather.”
It actually feels just fine.
Think about giving it a try.
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